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Don’t Say You’re Sorry!
Say you are fighting with your significant other. I know. It’s not fun, but it happens. What do you think your partner wants the most from…
What Would You Attempt to Do if You KNEW You Could Not Fail?
What would YOU attempt to do if you KNEW you could not fail? Would you start your own business? Would you learn how to play an…
How To Accomplish Anything
How Do You Make Dreams Real? You want to write a book, learn how to cook vegan, make a new group of friends, or climb a…
Sometimes You Just Gotta Let Go
You know you need to let go of your need to be in complete control of everything and everyone in your life. Or maybe you don’t…
Interdependence
In the progress of personality, first comes a declaration of independence, then a recognition of interdependence. ~Henry Van Dyke So where do you place yourself on…
How Good Therapists Prevent Getting Compassion Fatigue….
I love my job. And I know how lucky I am to be able to say that and mean that. I love what I do every…
You Can Do Better Than “So, How Was Your Day?”
“So, how was your day?” Fine. “What happened in school today?” Nothing. You’re trying to connect. You’re trying to get them to open up. But even…
Face It
When I am working with clients in therapy, I often share with them this piece of universal wisdom: The extent to which you are willing to…
How To Help Your Doctor Help You
You and I both know you are not a human Bento box. Trying to “unpack” your health experience by neat packages of symptom categories is not…
Why Is Forgiving So Hard?
You Are Wired to NOT Forget What Hurt You You know you need to do it, you know it would free you to let it go,…
Uh Oh…It’s Fall Again
If you suffer from Seasonal Affective Disorder, then that first cool hint of air, untinged by the humidity of summer, doesn’t make you feel all excited…
Daily Emotional Dialysis
Filtering Difficult Experiences I’m a big fan of the emotional equivalent of “emptying the trash.” By writing in a journal people get in touch with their…
Please Don’t Try to Change
Don’t Try! I mean it. Don’t try to change. Not one thing. Not your bad habits, your bad behavior, or your bad attitude. Surprising advice from a…
How to Get Things Done When You’re Just Not Feeling It (#NoMotivation)
I’m Just Not Feeling It So, I asked, “You have to wait until you’re able to “get into” doing a chore before you can do it?”…
How to Deal With Change
It is not necessary to change. Survival is not mandatory. ~W. Edwards Deming This is a time of year when people often are readying themselves for…
Why People Don’t Change Until They Have To
I became a therapist thinking that people just naturally wanted to change, grow, get better, become healthier… and how cool was that going to be to…
The Therapist of Oz
We’re Off to See the Therapist! Clients come to therapy with many different expectations, wants, and needs. Some people want their therapist to just be there…
Embracing Ambivalence
You know you need to leave him or her. It’s a bad…no…it’s a truly toxic relationship. But you just can’t quit it. You know you need…
Decide on the Daily
Everyone is looking for a good “life hack,” something that makes life easier and better. Here is one that definitely does both: it’s what I call…
Which Comes First: Depression or Fatigue?
Why are people suffering from depression almost always also very tired? The relationship of depression to fatigue is very complicated, for the following reasons: 1. Fatigue…
How To Make Better Decisions
“We are our choices.” ~Jean Paul Sartre Do you have trouble making decisions? Is it hard for you to choose between options? Or are you great…
No One Likes A Bully!
Imagine you’re given two choices about getting something done: Choice #1: Do it or else bad things are going to happen to you. …
“I Don’t See Myself Getting Better”
The Curtain Falls You might have just hit a rough patch. Or maybe those feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt are part of a larger problem that…
I Just Can’t Get Over It
Being able to heal past wounds and move on to live a happy, healthy life is a goal of many people who enter therapy. But what…
Today Is A Crappy Day
Have A Crappy Day! One of the good things about positive psychology is that it encourages individuals to view the glass as half full instead of half empty….
Don’t Hit the SNOOZE Button!
The Submarine Expert My husband tells this awesome story: Something’s gone wrong on a nuclear submarine and they call in “the expert” to help figure it…
Falling Out of Love Is Not the End
I’m Not IN LOVE Anymore I know you’ve heard this. You might have said it. “I LOVE her, but I’m not IN LOVE with her anymore.”…
The Train is Leaving the Station
A Beautiful Day for A Trip It’s a beautiful day. The sun is shining, a light breeze… a perfect day for boarding the train to take…
A Life Planner For Better Mental Health
Most people think using a life planner just helps you to remember dentist appointments and when your kid has soccer practice. But there are some great…
Progress by Erosion
Are You In “Project Purgatory?” You want to get your garage organized but you know you will never get an entire weekend to get it all…
How Steady Is Your Relationship?
COMFY? How Stable is Your Relationship? Take your typical 4-legged wooden stool. It’s nice and stable…if it’s got all 4 legs. You can probably even manage…
What Psychotherapy CAN’T Do For You
Graduation Dance
Graduating from a school, college, or program is supposed to be one of those “happy” events we celebrate, falling in the same category of major life…
Do You Smell Smoke?
You probably know what it’s like when the smoke alarm goes off. The sound is so annoying, irritating, and ear-piercingly unbearable. Alarms are this way for…
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~Anita
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